you're a nice guy? I doubt it... 2/19/2001
I am getting just a bit tired of all these guys bitching to me that they can't find a girl when this campus is, what, 70% female. They all say the same damn thing, too. "Girls just don't go for nice guys like me."
Let me tell you a little something about nice guys. Nice guys do not ask you about your boyfriend and then ask you to come over and "see what happens." Nice guys do not try to pick girls up at parties by telling them about the time they almost died of alcohol poisoning. Nice guys do not write obsessive love sonnets about girls they've never talked to. Nice guys don't ask you to come over to pose nude. Nice guys do not tell you that you should feel free to explore your emotions with them after you tell them you're not interested. Nice guys can take no for an answer, and, yes, they frequently do. EVERYONE gets rejected once in a while, even that perfect girl you've had on a pedestal for the last 3 months.

Yes, girls want nice guys who love to cuddle and appreciate the beauty of a woman in jeans and an old teeshirt, but they don't want guys who think this is their best character trait. They don't want to be the focal point of your life, especially if they don't know you. Yes, they want someone who listens, but not someone who expects credit for listening. They appreciate someone who can make them feel pretty more than someone who tells them they are. They don't want to be put on a pedestal. They want to be appreciated for who they are. This is (admittedly) very different from your inflated view of her, but that is how she wants to be loved. She will not save you from your desperation. In fact, it's driving her away...

*sigh*